Touch and Connection

As I watched my 7 year old son melt into my bed as I gave him an essential oil rub down, my mind started turning. I became curious about the importance of human touch. Over the past few months I have given countless “massages” to my partner and children and I have grown to really love it. I found that studies have shown that touch is the first sense that we acquire. It begins in the womb with the mother’s heart beat. This carries into the world where a mother’s touch can bring so many different feelings; feelings of comfort, protection, discipline and love. Did you know that preterm newborns who received just three 15-minute touch therapy sessions per day for 5-10 days gains 47 percent more weight than preterm newborns that did not experience physical touch therapy.

Furthermore, I recently took an ArmoaTouch Certification offered by doTERRA. Not only was it a wonderful learning experience, but it was also a solid reminder for me. As humans, we need to be touched. Each night I give my children (mainly my son) a massage with essential oils. Sometimes it is just the feet, other times it is the back and sometimes he lucks out and gets the warm wash cloth over his face with a full rub down. The Oxytocin (otherwise known as the bonding hormone) levels rise and the heart rate lowers, not only for my son, but also for me. In fact, research has shown that the person giving the massage has a reduction in stress hormones as well.

I think about myself and how how rarely I am touched…like truly touched, unless I pay for it….in the form of a massage (get your mind out of the gutter). Looking back, I can replay different times my man has put his hands on my neck, just as a simple embrace and it felt as if he had just absorbed every ounce of stress and anxiety I felt. It is such a relief to have someone else absorb our stresses. It’s even more of a relief to know that they don’t actually absorb them, but that they are benefitting from the experience as well.

Other studies have shown that touch is fundamental to human communication, bonding and health. It’s unfortunate that the United States is such a touch-deprived nation. We are touch-a-phobics – think about our personal space or bubble. While I believe in human connection and touch, I won’t be groping my neighbor or hugging strangers on the street. I’ll increasingly continue to touch the ones I love…with essential oils. : )

I have a bed-time blend for each of my children (recipes below). I make 10 ml roller balls for them. I use the Vetiver blend on my son before homework as well and within about 15 minutes I can see a difference in his attention. I will usually rub it on the back of his neck and spine for the day. At night, I rub each of their feet with their custom blends.

As of lately, my son has required a little extra touch and I have no complaints about that. I’llIMG_9674 take a little longer on his feet and work up into his ankles and calves. I’ll help him relax his hands and rub his oils on his chest and shoulders. I took additional Roman Chamomile and rubbed his ears and neck tonight and onto his upper-back. He had a warm wash cloth with coconut oils on his face tonight so I left him on his back to relax. He told me that he wasn’t digging the smell of the Roman Chamomile so I added some Serenity to cover it up. It worked like a charm. He was snoring before I was done. I gently covered him with a blanket and left him to his sweet dreams of dirt bikes and mind craft.

I encourage you to touch more. Start with your partner or your child(ren). Even if it is just a simple hand massage or foot massage (after a shower, of course). It doesn’t have to be a drawn out event with a massage table and robe. All you need is some coconut oil (essential oils are an added benefit) and love. Share your love with your loved ones. It doesn’t matter if you are trained or untrained. You’re not going for a deep tissue massage…you are going for an Oxytocin releasing, relaxation inducing, slumber tempting touch therapy. Soon enough, you’ll find yourself wrapped up in actually showing your love to that person and you will feel blessed beyond belief. In all honesty, aren’t we too blessed to be stressed anyways. : )


Jade’s Blend: In a 10 ml roller bottle add 20 drops Serenity, 15 drops Cedarwood, 10 drops Roman Chamomile, 10 drops Ylang Ylang and fill the rest with fractionated coconut oil

Colton’s Blend: In a 10 ml roller bottle add 20 drops Vetiver, 10 drops Cedarwood, 10 drops Roman Chamomile and fill the rest with fractionated coconut oil

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